Warrior Love Insights!

New insights from the “emerging me”

I recognize how much I desire close psychological contact with others. I recognize how much I need to care deeply for another and to receive that kind of caring in return. I recognize, rather dimly, that my deep involvement in counseling was a cautious way of meeting this need for intimacy without risking too much of myself. Now I feel a whole new depth of me can be gained if I dare to risk giving more of myself. A capacity for intimacy has attracted hurt, yet an even greater share of joy, laughter, and love. I realize now that my hurt is a sign of being open and receptive to healing and learning.  I may trigger someone else’s hurt if I am intimate with that person. However, I am not always responsible for his or her painful feelings.

How has this affected my behavior? I have developed more intimate relationships with men. I can now share with men, and listen to men, on becoming more aware and conscious. I loved hearing from one man in a Heal Your Life group, when he said: “Roger, you are so much easier to be with when you give of yourself just as you are; I trust you and feel I can risk being just me!”

I feel this new emerging me is an adventure, and I can be in much more intimate communication with women with whom I have platonic, however, psychologically intimate relationships, and these have tremendous meaning and purpose for me. With these people I can share many aspects of myself—the painful, joyful, crazy, and egotistical parts of me.